Winner of the 2014 Silver Independent Publisher Book Award in the relationship category and winner of the Spirituality and Practice Award as one of the best spiritual books of 2013!
The search for inner peace is often met with what seems like a conflicting path- the irresistible pull of love and connection with others to which we are drawn.
Reconciling these opposites, John Amodeo shows how spirituality and vibrant relationships are identical. He says that Buddha's concept of the root of suffering is misunderstood. It is not desire that causes suffering; desire is the fire that springs from the basic life force. Drawing upon the science of attachment theory, Amodeo illuminates how the root of our suffering is disconnection from ourselves and others, which is fueled by clinging to what doesn't serve us
In a conversational tone, Amodeo presents relationship as sacred experience. He teaches how to welcome desire mindfully rather than suppress it and how to overcome fear of failure in relating. He also discusses meditation as self-intimacy and holding ourselves with loving-kindness. Lastly, he explores the role of community in spiritual awakening and the issue of whom to trust--our guru or ourselves?
John Amodeo PhD
Brand: Quest Books
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Most Helpful Customer Reviews
As I read this book I wondered how does my friend John know me so well? Living on opposite coasts we don't see each other. We speak perhaps once a year. We exchange emails to lament or rejoice in the success or failure of our favorite baseball teams or the latest drama or happy news item in out lives. 40 years ago, on Long Island, our friendship began with a shared interest in the search for meaning in ourselves and in our interactions with others. But as our paths diverged to opposite sides of the continent over 30 years ago he has acquired a myriad of friends and colleagues that he now speaks with much more often and knows much better than he knows me. So how come, as I read his book did I feel he was lovingly probing through the depths of my being, understanding things about myself that I had never told him and offering a clear headed, thoughtful, compassionate understanding of my desire for a spiritual life; and for relationships that grow and improve in ways that deepen love and...
As a young man I studied Eastern philosophy and read with awe the stories of spiritual masters who were able to reach deep states of inner peace through devoted practice. I read with awe, but also sadness, since I couldn't imagine myself following such a practice -- spending hours a day in meditation, becoming a strict vegetarian, renouncing physical and emotional intimacy.
In "Dancing with Fire", John Amodeo has integrated the wisdom of Eastern thought with contemporary discoveries in psychology. He also provides a deeper and more nuanced understanding of Eastern philosophy that acknowledges, rather than conflicts with, our biology as determined by millions of years of evolution. Instead of recommending that we overcome our desires, Dr. Amodeo points to cravings or addictions as a source of suffering, and distinguishes them from natural desires which are an expression of life itself. Instead of asking us to ignore our...
DANCING WITH FIRE was an interesting read. It was about looking at past behaviors, explaining why we react to certain situations the way we do, and how to move forward. Recognizing the why was really important to me. I found myself reading certain sections and saying "hey that is me". It also explains the difference between "religion" and "spirituality", "flight and fight response", etc. A lot of the information was based on Buddism and for me, this was distracting at times because I am not familiar with Buddism. Because of this, I found myself putting the book down frequently. Having said that, I did find it informative and I did learn how to recognize my behaviors.
Reviewed by: KellyR
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