Equips parents to teach their children how to make sexuality a safe, healthy, and sacred part of their lives.
How parents address sex—their openness, the context, and their attitudes—will impact how their children view their own sexuality and self-worth. Dr. Chirban helps parents know when, how, and how much, and stresses the vital importance of their role in sex education. He uses humor, compassion, and real-life examples to prepare parents for healthy and ongoing conversations that equips their kids to own their own sexuality and provide an understanding of the larger issues of relationships, love, commitment, and intimacy. In addition, parents discover how helping their children grasp these veiled yet critical keys to a fulfilling life deepens their own connection with their children.
With specific helps for children from birth through young adult, Dr. Chirban provides context for what needs to be communicated at each stage of their development as well as tips for the inevitable surprise questions. In addition, he tackles complicated issues such as pornography, relationships and the Internet, sexting, and homosexuality. Most important is the emphasis on strong family values and spirituality as it relates to sexuality.
Previously released in 2007 as What's Love Got to Do With It?, this revised book adds new insights from today's culture that make it even more relevant to parents and families.
Dr. John Chirban
HarperCollins Christian Pub.
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
The difficulty of parent-child discussion on sex was something past generations and our generation as well have always struggled with. Dr. Chirban's book has taken a seemingly impenetrable subject that most parents simply could never discuss with their children and removed embarrassment, shame and guilt which were always so much a part of sexuality. This book offers the much sought-after help a parent has needed to handle what has been, for the most part, taboo. It teaches how to communicate openly about sex with one's children in a wholesome, healthy way. One example that immediately elevates the reader's mind: Dr. Chirban explains it in this way, "Do your kids know that they have access to you and that they are the priority--not only when a rule or limit is broken, but because they are the light of your life?" This one question, this idea and/or suggestion triggers within us the insight, the realization to immediately recognize a need we can and must attend to and deal with so our...
Dr. Chirban's book pleasantly surprised me. In a field saturated with instructive guides for well meaning parents and care givers, I was genuinely impressed not only with his approach, but the content. To begin with, his book is written in a personal voice and tone. He is at once professional healthcare provider, experienced parent (he weaves occasional personal anecdotes into the text), and friend. It is approachable and un-intimidating because he writes in an easy voice, but don't let that fool you. His advice and suggestions are specific and well-based - he draws from a well of professional experience and patient study. I particularly appreciated his suggested ice-breakers and responses to thorny questions from children, as well as the what-not-to-dos. Never condescending -- instead he is appropriately self-deprecating (what parent hasn't made mistakes - no matter what his professional training?). This is not feel-good gobbledygook. This is helpful, insightful advice - and...
Every parent struggles with the when's, how's and why me's about when it is appropriate to talk to our kids about the birds and the bees. This is my "GO TO" book. It has helped me tremendously understand why my kids do what they do, and help me explain in the most straight up way about their bodies, their changes,their feelings, and yes, even sex. Reading about Dr. Chirbann's own experiences and how he approached his own children's needs was the examples I need to develope my own "talks" and let my children know it's ok to trust and confide in me when they have questions. In today's world, sex is all around us, and it pokes at our children well before they are at an age to understand it, and that is scary. Having this book under my belt has allowd me to relax more about these subjects with my kids, and not DREAD the TALK! I strongly recommend this book for new mothers and fathers, grandparents, and even the seasoned well-versed parents of teenagers!
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