Two leading experts provide an authoritative and reassuring guide to the issues and concerns of adoptive and birth families through all stages of the open adoption relationship.
Lois Ruskai Melina
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
First the positives: The book covered all the topics I wanted more information on and also included subjects I hadn't yet considered. My family's current status in the adoption process is that we are waiting for our profile to be chosen by a birth mother, so we've thought a lot about adoption as we've already made the commitment. So it was good consider issues that we hadn't previously. For example, the authors discuss that it can be anticlimatic when the birth mother actually gives the adoptive parents the child and that sometimes it has to be an exchange in the hospital parking lot. Suggestions for a ritual/ceremony are a really good idea. Now the negatives: As another reviewer noted, I found this book really negative. I am actually for open adoption and not "on the fence" about it, but after reading this book I couldn't help but consider if open adoption is good for anybody (birth and adoptive parents, and the child). The book makes it sound like every...
I can't say enough about this wonderful book. It's packed full of examples, covers more than just the pre-adoption and placement aspects, and is incredibly non-judgemental. There's so much information here, more than I expected. It really helped me think through all of the issues related to adoption. It's for both birth and adoptive parents, in fact, two of the birth parents we've been in contact with were excited to hear about it and ended up ordering the book themselves. Reading through this book really helped me conquer my fears about adoption. I'm so glad it was recommended to us. If you're thinking about adoption, even if you're thinking that open adoption isn't right for you I highly recommend taking a chance and buying this book. It's great.
I found this book really helpful, and wished that I had discovered it sooner. Besides just being a good primer on open adoption, it has very useful sections about "Readiness for Open Adoption", "Choosing Each Other", "Getting to Know Each Other" and parts titled "Birth and Placement" and "The Relationship Grows and Changes" - which discusses what to expect during the first year, and as the relationship grows and changes over time. It also discusses how open adoption affects the children in the families - adopted or otherwise. It also includes what to do/how to handle the situation when the Birthmom cancels the adoption plan. Overall, I thought it was a great book, as it had a good balance between the birth parents' perspective and that of the adoptive parents.
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