Two Dads and Three Girls: Searching for Sexual Identity, Falling in Love, and Building a Family through Surrogacy

One hundred percent made in China, Nick (Yu) grew up in an environment where being gay was not an option. The expectation from his parents and pressure from the society molded him into the “best student” and “best employee.” He made his family proud. But deep inside, he knew that something was missing, and he was different.

In this memoir, Nick (Yu) takes readers on his journey from growing up as a confused “straight” boy from China to today having a lovely husband and three girls through surrogacy. He invites readers to the experiences that he would rather have forgotten – from being sexually harassed by his desk-mate in middle school, through depression and a one-night stand in college, to losing a baby during pregnancy.

With ultimate honesty and absolute vulnerability, Nick shares the happiness and sadness on the journey to come out to himself, his parents and friends; learn about gay culture in America, cherish his Chinese heritage, find his first love, and create a family through surrogacy and the help of many amazing people.

Two Dads and Three Girls is a celebration of courage and love. It challenges each of us to dig deep into our soul to find what matters most to us, gain courage through the stories, and live our lives in truth.

“This is a story of one man’s determination to be himself and achieve his goals, in both love and work, told with captivating honesty, vulnerability and humor. It’s also a story very much of our time, when the issues of immigration and gay marriage/family life still roil society. You won’t forget Two Dads and Three Girls.”  – Margaret Diehl